Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Week 6, Post #1
At one point or another we have been faced with situations that leave us with distrust with another person. By definition distrust means, “ we lack confidence in another person, we do not rely on that person, and/or we are suspicious or wary of her or him.” (pg.111) In High School I lost trust in one of my really close friends after I found out that he was seeing my ex girlfriend. I felt like it was a violation of the unwritten code of friendship. I reacted to the loss of trust by distancing myself from him due to the fact that I couldn’t bring myself to respect someone that would do that to one of his friends. As time went on the trust was restored when I saw that he was no longer that same person that he was years ago. I do believe that people can change, yet it has to be proven with concrete actions. Regaining trust doesn’t happen overnight, nor does it ensure that things will be back to the way they used to be. Ultimately, trust can take seconds to destroy and years to be restored.
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My posting this week was a similar example of distrust. You are absolutely correct when you discuss how the trust can be gained back by concrete evidence of change and noticeable apologetic actions. Yet sometimes the trust can be so far gone that one does not want to trust or regain that person’s original relationship because you have found a possibly true side of that person and who they really are. I empathize with your situation and feel a little envious you were able to trust that friend again. A direct quote from you I will always remember is, “Ultimately, trust can take seconds to destroy and years to be restored.” This bold and honest statement is a fact we like to forget when we are the people who are no longer trusted. Great post!
ReplyDeleteHi Mark,
ReplyDeleteI can really identify with your closing statement that trust can take seconds to destroy and years to be restored. I experienced a similar situation with a high school friend a couple years back. After an argument that had been triggered by a lost of trust, my friend and I spent a 6 month period keeping our distance from each other. We hardly spoke and once we felt the dust had settled we decided to give our friendship another chance. However, like you said, regaining trust does not ensure that things will be back to the way they used to be and I feel our friendship has been strained ever since.